Happy Mother’s Day!

May 8, 2014

Happy Mother’s Day to all the MLC mom’s out there!

 

Mothers Day pog

 

This post it dedicated to all the mom’s out there.  Share any stories, songs, rhymes, lessons learned – anything to do with Mothers.  For with out them, we wouldn’t be here today.

 

My mom was tough.  After all, she raised 4 boys (no girls, poor thing).  Mom wasn’t one to show much emotion.  You could never tell when she was sad.  Or happy.  But I used to do things to try and make her laugh.  Usually all I got was a little smile.  But that was good enough for me.

 

Mom used to start her day waking up early to make my dad his sandwich for lunch.  Then once my dad would leave for work, mom would sit at the table with her coffee and toast and read the previous night’s Star-Bulletin newspaper – while listening to Aku on the radio.  Then her day of work would start once she started waking up all of us boys.  Preparing breakfast, making sure we were groomed properly, and getting us to school in her powder blue Valiant.

 

Then she would come home and get a load of laundry going.  Mom washed clothes a lot.  Because there wasn’t just the clothes, but the towels and bedsheets too.  And mom had to be part weather-forecaster too because she didn’t have a dryer.  Mom had to determine whether it would be a sunny enough day to hang clothes on the line in the back yard.  Although we did have some clothes lines in our garage for when those unexpected showers popped up.  And mom had to rush out there and pull the clothes off the line balancing them on her arm while making sure that all the clothes pins made it into the clothes-pin bag.

 

Then there was the vacuuming and mopping.  Since we didn’t have carpet – it meant that mom had to mop the hardwood floors.  I still remember that Mr. Clean smell from when mom used to mop.

 

Then on some days when mom didn’t have to wash clothes or clean the house, she used to get dressed up and take a drive out to Kailua town to do some banking, maybe squeeze in a little stop at Liberty House, then grocery shopping.  I remember mom always asking me – or more like just thinking out loud – “What should we eat for dinner tonight”.  Mom had to come up with the menu, prepare the dinner, and time it so that it would be ready at 6:30 PM – after Bob Sevey, Tim Tindal, and Joe Moore finished the KGMB Channel 9 News.

 

Then after dinner and putting away the leftovers, mom’s day was pau – as we had to do the dishes.  Then mom would lay down for a bit and take a well deserved nap – only to wake up after most of us were already sleeping – and be the last one to bocha.

 

But on some nights when the ironing piled up, mom would bust out the ironing board in my bedroom, tune the radio to the Japanese station, and get the ironing done.  Of course, I’d be lying on the bed, smelling that aroma of heated spray starch and fall asleep almost immediately – just knowing that mom was there.  There would be some nights too when instead of ironing, mom would be in my room at the sewing machine – hemming up pants, fixing the pukas in our jeans, or making something creative like a patch-quilt.  And again, lying on the bed, I would almost fall asleep in no time with just feeling the presence of mom in the room.  I felt safe.  I felt secure.

 

Mom was never one to like a lot of jewelry.  Or perfume.  She liked her nice dresses with just a little bit of make-up.  But she did have quite of bit of clothes.  Hey, maybe that’s where I got the shopping gene from!  I can never have enough clothes.  Or shoes.

 

Mom actually had a job as a real estate agent.  Somehow between raising all of us – mom was out hosting open houses, showing clients homes, and selling homes.  I never talked to her about her work so I had no idea how many homes she actually sold.  Or what was the most expensive home she ever sold.  But mom enjoyed her work.  It was about the only social life she had as the real estate office would go on a caravan on Saturdays looking at homes that were recently listed.  And the Wednesday night meetings often ended up at a bar or cocktail lounge someplace where mom would get “tipsy” – as she put it.  I’m glad that she had at least that little outlet of time for herself.

 

Mom was one tough cookie.  But as tough as she was – she could not fend off the Dementia that slowly took her away from us.  Mom went to heaven a little over a year ago.  But she taught me a lot – not by sitting me down and talking to me – but just through her actions.  Mom taught me resilience.  Mom taught me to hang in there when the going gets tough because it will all shake out in the end.  Mom taught me to work hard, but take time to stop and smell the new clothes in the store.  Mom taught me to live a pure life – from the heart.

 

Happy Mother’s Day!

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30 Responses so far | Have Your Say!

  1. 4G
    May 8th, 2014 at 4:52 am #

    Awww – nice tribute to your mom, @Rod!

  2. Mark'75
    May 8th, 2014 at 6:13 am #

    Yup, agree with 4G. +1 :!:

  3. M
    May 8th, 2014 at 6:19 am #

    Guud morning MLCers!
    Nice Rod.
    My mom is a great cook, she makes the best jai.

  4. Hbh
    May 8th, 2014 at 7:29 am #

    @Rodney

    Sounds like you really had a great old school traditional mother Rodney. :-).

  5. Hbh
    May 8th, 2014 at 7:44 am #

    My mother taught me independence and strength at a young age. She was a single mother. Even thou she worked alot to raise me in expensive Honolulu. She taught me to rely on myself when i was old enough to take care of myself. When she wasn’t working and we had time together, it was really memorable times, we liked going to the liberty theater, movies, the latest carnival or going crazy at holiday times, coloring easter eggs or Halloween dressing up etc. These times were the best of my life and my best memories. Mahalo Mother

  6. M
    May 8th, 2014 at 8:32 am #

    Going to have a hawaiian dinner for my mom on Mother’s Day. Poi, laulau, lomi salmon, poki, kaula pig and haupia.

  7. Seawalker
    May 8th, 2014 at 9:11 am #

    Bless your heart, @Rod, and bless your late mom’s heart too. I called my own mother this morning. Wanted to make sure I got my call in before the weekend. She is no longer here, so I can’t visit her in person. Nothing much. Mom thanked me for the pictures and frames from the kid’s school pictures. The usual. She tells me about her ailments, and I actually listen more than responding to what she’s actually saying. But I did get in a Happy Mother’s Day in the call. Forgot to let her know I’ll visit the old man’s grave for Father’s Day though. That’s okay, I think, moms know that actions speak volumes more than words. Will be having a BBQ dinner for the in-laws side this weekend. It doesn’t feel the same as your own family which you grew up with. But I sense my MIL,wife, and kids know this. And they really appreciates the thought. That’s all I need to know to make sure the food and accommodations will be good. We’re having rib-eye steak, chicken (skin on and no bone in the thigh), Pordagee sausage (spicy but mild), salad (always good cause Auntie makes it) and ice cream (with choke toppings). There’ll be tons of other food; when you go to a Chinese restaurant, you need to have more than enough grinds so that you end up leaving with a doggy-bag. Strange. Almost forgot about Mother’s Day this year. But remembered Father’s Day. Go figure. Happy Mother’s Day in advance from Seawalker!

  8. 4G
    May 8th, 2014 at 9:20 am #

    @Seawalker – Mothers’ Day almost snuck by me, too, this year. I think that advertisements about Mothers’ Day is down this year (and definitely did not make much of an “early” appearance). The ads had been what used to tickle my brain – but not so much this year . . . .

    From the Quote Garden, “Quotations about Mothers”:

    http://www.quotegarden.com/mothers.html

  9. 4G
    May 8th, 2014 at 9:28 am #

    Mother’s Day is 100 this year?

    I never knew the background of Mother’s Day . . . .

    From NatGeo, “Mother’s Day Turns 100: Its Surprisingly Dark History”:

    http://news.nationalgeographic.com/news/2014/05/140508-mothers-day-nation-gifts-facts-culture-moms/

  10. Seawalker
    May 8th, 2014 at 9:34 am #

    @4G – Good ones, man. One year, they had a contest to see who can come up with how much is a stay-at-home mom is worth in terms of a salary. Forgot if it was in the six-figures or not. But it was buku. So, they can monku, monku, monku, but remember they also make or worth buku bucks. :lol: :lol:

  11. 4G
    May 8th, 2014 at 9:39 am #

    OT

    From Yahoo!, “Seven Innovations that Will Transform the Airline Experience” (including a solution to the armrest wars!):

    https://www.yahoo.com/travel/7-innovations-that-will-transform-the-airline-85050976942.html

  12. 4G
    May 8th, 2014 at 10:04 am #

    BOT

    John Lennon, “Mother”:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eDVkkwl6aJo

  13. 4G
    May 8th, 2014 at 10:06 am #

  14. 4G
    May 8th, 2014 at 10:25 am #

    A Tribute to Mothers – Who is Mother (from entourage.com):

    http://www.entourages.com/barbs/Mother.htm

    There are also a number of links to other “mother” things on the page.

  15. BlueJade
    May 8th, 2014 at 12:11 pm #

    Thanks for sharing your story, very well written and I could see the images in my head. Yes, our moms did everything those days and never complained (except when we kids were naughty). My dad was disabled so my mom was the chief income source. She was in the retail biz so holidays were the busiest. Leading up to mom’s day she would work 8 am – 12 midnight. Those days we had leftovers but otherwise she cooked every night when she came home, then vac’d the entire place and on her hand and knees would wipe the tiled floors clean AND do the laundry. My only job as I got older was wiping the dishes. My dad, typical taisho did not do a thing though he wasn’t THAT disabled. He was an excellent cook but chose not to except for certain dishes. The house was simply the woman’s job.

    That’s the only time mom got a break – – and on Mother’s Day was the only time we went out to dinner. We were too poor otherwise anyway, and there were no fast foods. So if you like eat you had to make ‘em. When instant noodles came along that was a blessing as it was a quick meal though never for dinner.

    I don’t know how my mom did it and even I can’t duplicate that energy and strength she had. She’s 87 and slowed down a lot but she is STILL cleaning when she can. She has however stopped cooking and now I cook for her.

  16. Rodney
    May 8th, 2014 at 2:05 pm #

    Mother of Mine – Agnes Chan
    *My first Agnes Chan record.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yGiUBYW0Viw

  17. Rodney
    May 8th, 2014 at 3:13 pm #

    I’ll Always Love My Momma – The Intruders
    *long version

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zR-7YfQAnHM

  18. 4G
    May 9th, 2014 at 7:08 am #

    Wow – kind of slow . . . . LOL.

    Loggins and Messina, “Your Mama Don’t Dance”:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Z7-j62mhVM

  19. 4G
    May 9th, 2014 at 7:10 am #

    Paul Simon, “Mother and Child Reunion”:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LDjjWpLKsGM

  20. 4G
    May 9th, 2014 at 7:11 am #

    Bread, “Mother Freedom”:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MRNe04kw3Cg

  21. 4G
    May 9th, 2014 at 7:12 am #

    The Rolling Stones, “Mother’s Little Helper”:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=13olfeD026g

  22. 4G
    May 9th, 2014 at 7:13 am #

    The Beatles, “Mother Nature’s Son”:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yHm2AHSn54o

  23. 4G
    May 9th, 2014 at 9:38 am #

    They say that talking to yourself is okay – it’s when you start answering yourself that you need to worry . . . . ;)

    Lookee here – a Mother’s Day site! LOL.

    http://www.mothersdaycelebration.com/mothers-day-poem2.html

  24. Mark'75
    May 9th, 2014 at 3:51 pm #

    Mama…I Love You – Loyal Garner
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=esxXHloBDUc

  25. Mark'75
    May 9th, 2014 at 3:58 pm #

    Through the eyes of a mother…
    You Don’t Remember – Na Leo Pilimehana
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rPAKG1HfzhU

  26. Losthawaiian
    May 9th, 2014 at 8:19 pm #

    Rod, great description of small kid time. It’s almost a mirror image of my mom. The only difference was my mom never drove. She tried to learn once, with my dad trying to teach her. Bad, bad idea…! Like your mom, she has dementia. She’s tough as nails though. She has survived cancer , diabetes and a major heart attack. She raised the four of us to adulthood and is my personal hero!

  27. Mark'75
    May 11th, 2014 at 8:37 am #

    A big shout out to all the mothers…
    HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY!!!!

  28. Rodney
    May 11th, 2014 at 10:32 pm #

    @Losthawaiian – I remember your mom. She was always kind to me. I don’t think I ever heard her scold us – considering all the warubozu things we used to do.

    Happy Mother’s Day MLCers!

  29. DIO
    May 12th, 2014 at 2:22 am #

    Sorry, a day late. Happy Mother’s Day to all of the mothers out there, those still amongst us, and those that have (sadly) passed on.

  30. LINDA KATO
    May 13th, 2014 at 5:56 pm #

    A belated Mother’s Day to all the MLC Mother’s :!: I was busy working :!: Finished my final edit of a novel on Mother’s Day :!: :grin: Whew :!:

    Hope everyone had a great day :!: :grin: